{"id":2587,"date":"2024-05-06T00:22:43","date_gmt":"2024-05-06T00:22:43","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/xstorynews.com\/?p=2587"},"modified":"2024-05-06T00:22:43","modified_gmt":"2024-05-06T00:22:43","slug":"woman-refuses-to-take-in-husbands-orphaned-niece-who-might-be-sent-to-foster-care","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/xstorynews.com\/?p=2587","title":{"rendered":"Woman refuses to take in husband\u2019s orphaned niece who might be sent to foster care"},"content":{"rendered":"

This one couple has found themselves at a very stressful crossroads in deciding to take in their recently orphaned niece<\/a>. <\/strong><\/p>\n

The wife, identified as the OP (original poster), took to Reddit<\/a> to ask for advice, questioning if she was in the wrong for not feeling guilty about the possibility of foster care.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Two orphaned children<\/h2>\n

OP explained the complicated situation by writing<\/a> that her husband\u2019s sister<\/a> tragically died from a drug overdose, leaving behind two children<\/a>, Rose, almost 17, and seven-year-old Lilly.<\/p>\n

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The 23-year-old woman then detailed how she and her 26-year-old husband<\/a> live on the East coast, while his family are all in California.<\/p>\n

\u201cMy husband\u2019s only other family is his mom, who lives in her boyfriend\u2019s small house. She\u2019s retired and doesn\u2019t make much. This is to say that they don\u2019t have much room and can\u2019t afford 2 kids,\u201d OP wrote.<\/p>\n

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The older of the two young girls, Rose, plans to stay on her grandmother<\/a>\u2018s couch until she heads off to college the following year, which leaves seven-year-old Lilly in need of a long-term solution.<\/p>\n

The dilemma<\/h2>\n

\u201cShe\u2019s staying with them for right now but MIL really can\u2019t care for her long term due to a multitude of reasons, MIL\u2019s boyfriend<\/a> also said he wants her out of his house,\u201d OP said.<\/p>\n

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Though, OP explained that taking Lilly in with her and her husband was a no-go, even though her mother-in-law wanted them to. \u201cMy husband and his mom<\/a> want us to take Lilly so that she doesn\u2019t go into foster care. I\u2019m pretty against this for many reasons,\u201d she wrote in her post.<\/p>\n

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OP\u2019s main reason for not wanting to take in Lilly is due to her husband\u2019s lack of responsibility, and she explains that her husband only cooks two or three times a year and prefers to play video games when he\u2019s not working.<\/p>\n

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The husband, who serves in the military<\/a> and has extended deployments, often works long hours and night shifts, which leaves the OP fearing she would bear the primary responsibility for Lilly\u2019s care, given her husband\u2019s demanding schedule and frequent out-of-town work commitments.<\/p>\n

Another reason why the OP is hesitant is due to her own lack of desire for children. In her post, she questions the fairness of expecting her to adopt a seven-year-old she has never met and who is not biologically related to her.<\/p>\n

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Lilly\u2019s additional challenges, such as ADHD and behavioral issues, further contribute to OP\u2019s nervousness.<\/p>\n

This who situation has obviously caused tension between the couple<\/a>.<\/p>\n

What did the internet say?<\/h2>\n

Fellow Redditors were both sympathetic towards both Lilly and the OP, with one person saying: \u201cBasically her husband is volunteering her to be a single mom. I feel badly for the niece but if OP doesn\u2019t want to be a parent, pushing her to is only going to create resentment and toxicity. I know very well the foster system is s****y, but in this circumstance it appears to be the best option for everyone involved.\u201d<\/p>\n

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Someone else highlighted how the husband\u2019s willingness to offer up their home to Lilly was unfair to his wife, who would be taking on a lot of extra work. \u201cIt seems like the husband doesn\u2019t want to actually say no and be seen as the bad guy despite this genuinely not being feasible for them to do,\u201d the comment read.<\/p>\n

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\u201cHe\u2019s military, and when he\u2019s not deployed he works 12+ hours a day. OP mentions in some comments that she is not only a full time student, she also works 12 hour shifts too. How would she be able to raise the niece? Quit her job? Quit school? I\u2019m sorry but that\u2019s not fair to her either,\u201d the comment continued.<\/p>\n

They then added: \u201cI feel bad for the niece, but at the same time, OP has never met the niece so I\u2019m not really going to fault her for not wanting to be a single parent to a kid she doesn\u2019t know just bc \u2018but family!’\u201d<\/p>\n

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What do you think of this situation? Let us know in the comments!<\/strong><\/p>\n

Keep reading to discover how this situation panned out\u2026<\/strong><\/p>\n

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